• Aug 29, 2019

Do you have habits? For certain is. And sometimes absolutely unclear. Many of you, for example, are afraid to open an umbrella indoors, to pass under a ladder, knock on a tree "for luck" or spit through the left shoulder at a meeting with a black cat.

And some create the whole rituals. For example, you go on work on the same route, and it is difficult to you to change it even if more convenient option appeared.

Habits and rituals are also at us, here we are very similar. They can be both useful, and harmful.

For example, rituals are important at communication with relatives: they give the chance to understand each other and not to confuse, for example, a game with the real battle.

Horses Play
It I play
with the friend Brenko. Though from outside can seem to some that it is not a game at all.

The ritual can sometimes be rescue, in particular, for timid animals. For example, if the dog knows that before an exit to walk by her put on a collar, and after return wash paws, she already at the moment when you take a collar in hand, knows, what will be farther. Walk along a familiar route – too some kind of ritual. All this creates feeling of predictability, so, control. Also reduces alarm.

You have the same. If the person considers that, having put on "a happy dress", he will ensure successful day, he will feel more surely.

That some people call "equestrian sport" (though this awful occupation and I long battled and paid dearly that not to participate in it) rituals are sometimes used by you. For example, there are so-called "horses self-carts" who learned the scheme of a dressage and run it regardless of the fact that the person does above. It helps riders clumsies to win categories and worthless sockets.

But sometimes rituals begin to disturb. Especially when become obsessions. For example, you left the house in a happy dress, but found out that you forgot happier scarf – and feel that now there will be an accident. You begin to shiver, behave awkwardly and by that "you attract" troubles. Clever people call it "a self-fulfilling prophecy" (I reliably hid the dictionary so far that did not select).

Or you go with a dog along a familiar route, and the way was barred by the fallen tree. It is necessary to make a detour – and your canine friend begins to go crazy from concern, everything goes not as he got used!

Or to take the same dressage. If the scheme changes, it will be very difficult to you to convince a horse - "self-cart" to change the habitual scheme of actions. It will be terrible to be nervous it!

Or here I knew a rural horse who carried milk. Once the route exchanged, but she continued to go persistently along an old route. And perceived all changes in bayonets and resisted.

And then people begin to be angry and accuse us that we are bad.

But before calling us "slaves to habits", you would look at yourself. Unless you – not slaves to habits? Even your children sometimes show persistence in behavior (for example, they very much do not like to step on cracks on the sidewalk) that to speak about adults.

It is possible to cope with persuasive habits. But it demands time and patience. Both in yours, and in our case.

Not such we and different, huh?

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